Teen parties too often can become a family's biggest nightmare!
youth crash the party or guest attempt to bring alcohol or other drugs
into your home. Your visible presence is needed to deal with those
situations. Parents must be nearby to intervene. Mom or Dad have an
important role in protecting young people and their guests. Not only do
you have the maturity and experience to deal with problem individuals,
but you can also be the "bad" guys enforcing the rules and relieving
the pressure from your son or daughter.
Follow these tips for parties and keep your teen safe and healthy!
When Your Teen Throws a Party
Set the ground rules ahead of time. Let your teen know what you expect of him or her as host. Rules should include:
- Adult supervision
- Alcohol and other drug-free
- Come to the party, stay at the party
- Invitation only
- Small groups
- Lights left on
- Certain rooms are off limits
- Have plenty of soft drinks and snacks
- Encourage group activities and games
a time limit. Be visible and available, but keep a low profile.
Determine how you will deal with guests who bring tobacco, alcohol, or
other drugs. Invite another couple to assist in supervision, and as
company to you.
When Your Teen Goes to a Party
Set ground rules ahead of time. Rules might include:
- The name, address, and phone number of the party giver.
- Your teen is to call you if there is a change in location
- Set time that teen will arrive home
- Set up transportation to and from the party with the understanding that they can call for a ride if needed. Discuss situations when this might be necessary.
parents of the party-giver. Verify that the parent will be present, and
that alcohol and other drugs will not be permitted. Discuss how to
handle problem situations. Share with your teen your views on underage
alcohol use and drug use. Role play a comfortable way to refuse alcohol
and other drugs. Be awake or have your teen awaken you upon arriving
How Parental Attitudes Affect Teen Drinking
whose parents clearly expect their children to abstain are 400% more
likely to abstain than other students. Children whose parents show a
lax attitude regarding alcohol and other drugs are likely to begin
drinking at a younger age.
- I will provide a safe environment where alcohol and drugs are not available to youth.
- I will be present to supervise parties and gatherings of youth in my home.
- I wish for communication with any parent who observe my child using alcohol of other illegal drugs.
- I will communicate with the parent of any child I personally observe using drugs or alcohol.
- I will educate myself about alcohol and drugs and their dangers so that I can effectively impress upon my children the dangers of substance abuse.
- I will help to build my child's self-image: to provide and promote alternatives to chemicals; helping them feel grown-up in ways other than using alcohol and other drugs; teaching them how to confront problems.
- I will confront youthful drug or alcohol crises quickly and calmly so that we can make informed, rational, decisions that are in our child's best interest.
- I will get counseling if we have difficulty handling a child's substance dependency, so that we may be better equipped to help them recover.